60 Quotes That Tell You Just How Tough Love Is

Love is tough. Love is difficult. Love is painful.

Anybody who has ever been in love knows just how hard romantic love is. It can buffet you up to the sky in grand feelings of euphoria and ecstasy only to have you crashing to the ground broken and bleeding. 

Love is tough as you get to know each other. Love is tough when you start having to deal with the realities of daily life like money or toxic family. Love is tough when you’re trying to work out a failing relationship. And perhaps, love is the toughest when you need to separate from somebody whom you thought was surely your future and your happiness.

Read these quotes on how love is tough and see which ones resonate with you.

paulo coelho quote

Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused. – Paulo Coelho

The worst feeling in the world is when you know that you both love each other but still you just can’t be together.

Learning to love is hard and we pay dearly for it. It takes hard work and a long apprenticeship, for it is not just for a moment that we must learn to love, but forever. – Fyodor Dostoevsky

You don’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity. – Epicurus

All love shifts and changes. I don’t know if you can be wholeheartedly in love all the time. – Julie Andrews

jack kornfield quote

In the end we discover that to love and let go can be the same thing. – Jack Kornfield

Assumptions are the termites of relationships. – Henry Winkler

Love is a thing that is full of cares and fears. – Ovid

The course of true love never did run smooth. – William Shakespeare

julia roberts quote

You know it’s love when all you want is that person to be happy, even if you’re not part of their happiness. – Julia Roberts

Love can change a person the way a parent can change a baby: awkwardly, and often with a great deal of mess. – Lemony Snicket

Pleasure of love lasts but a moment. Pain of love lasts a lifetime. – Bette Davis

Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys. – Nicholas Sparks

To love is to burn, to be on fire quote

To love is to burn, to be on fire. – Jane Austen

It’s scary being loved. Because life is complicated and all too often it throws you off balance by sending you the right person at the wrong time. – Guillaume Musso

Love is hard work and hard work sometimes hurts!

Life is so often unfair and painful and love is hard to find and you have to take it whenever and wherever you can get it, no matter how brief it is or how it ends. – Jenna Blum

bette davis quote

Pleasure of love lasts but a moment. Pain of love lasts a lifetime. – Bette Davis

A relationship with lots of pain, it’s not a relationship that will last long.

Nothing is perfect. Life is messy. Relationships are complex. Outcomes are uncertain. People are irrational. – Pietro Aretino

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. – Carl Jung

robert brault quote

A lovers’ quarrel is always about every quarrel you ever had. – Robert Brault

Problems in relationship occur because each person is focusing on what is missing in the other person. – Wayne Dyer

Love took a lot of different forms and sometimes what appeared to be love wasn’t really love at all, was just infatuation in disguise. – Larry Brown

The more I loved her, the more I hated her. And the more she loved me, the more I harmed myself. – Marvin Gaye

franz kafka quote

You are at once both the quiet and the confusion of my heart. – Franz Kafka

Love is hard.

Love is the easiest thing there is. It’s the layers of doubt, fear, and expectation that make it complicated. – Luanne Rice

You made me like I was hard to love and I will never forgive you for that.

love isnt complicated quote

Love isn’t complicated, people are.

Trying to make someone fall in love with you is about as pointless as trying to control who you fall in love with. – Johnny Depp

Love is not love until love’s vulnerable. – Theodore Roethke

Trouble is part of your life, and if you don’t share it, you don’t give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough. – Dinah Shore

be over you quote

It’s like half of me really wants to be with you and the other half just wants to be over you.

Ask anyone who has been in a love relationship for a while: nothing is perfect.- Tracy McMillan

Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away. – Dorothy Parker

Love is hard, harder than steel and thrice as cruel. It is inexorable as the tides, and life and death alike follow in its wake. – Jacqueline Carey

jacques benigne bossuel quote

The heart has reasons that reason does not understand. – Jacques Benigne Bossuel

Love is hard work. It is the hardest work I know of, work from which you are never entitled to take a vacation. – Ravi Zacharias

When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself. – Deepak Chopra

Love is the hardest habit to break, and the most difficult to satisfy. – Drew Barrymore

love is tough but quitting is harder quote

Love is tough but quitting is harder.

Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings. – Anais Nin

Love was never meant to be easy.

The hardest part is loving you in my dreams and waking up alone.

love is not always smooth sailing quote

Love is not always smooth sailing.

To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable. – C.S. Lewis

Most of your relationships will be tough at some point.

It’s not hard to confuse love and hate. – Tyler Mcmahon

loved so hard quote

I have loved so hard it broke my heart.

When you get hurt in love, there are very few things that can help you get over the pain. – Melba Sean

Relationships are like any other aspect of life: there will be TOUGH times.

It’s very easy to understand that you don’t love me. The tough part is accepting it.

love is tougher quote

Life’s tough. Love’s tougher.

Falling in love is so hard on the knees.

Relationships don’t always make sense. Especially from the outside. – Sarah Dessen

We just have to accept the fact that some people are going to stay in our hearts even if they don’t stay in our lives. – Ronald Oliver

love is more difficult quote

Nothing in this world was more difficult than love.

You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life. – Bob Marley

A relationship is like a house. When a light bulb burns out you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Bernajoy Vaal

Love involves a peculiar unfathomable combination of understanding and misunderstanding. – Diane Arbus